Episode 201: Sex, Desire, and the Neurodivergent Brain: A Sex Therapist Gets Real
Dr. Emma Smith is a sex therapist, trauma specialist, and host of the Intimate Philosopher podcast. She has a PhD, a practice full of Type A++ overachievers, and a very low threshold for false pretense... which, as she says, might be autism, might be trauma, or might just be that she's from New Jersey.
In this episode, Emma breaks down what sex therapy actually looks like, why desire gets squashed in the highest-achieving people, and what happens to intimacy after military trauma. She talks about relationship agreements, why polyamory is more like AP Physics than the "easy way out," and why neurodivergent people are actually wired for designing relationships that make sense.
We also talk about the moment Emma nearly fell out of her front-row seat at one of Kory's presentations, when she realized she doesn't walk into rooms the way other people do. And what it means to live in a different reality than you thought you were in.
This conversation is funny, real, and will make you think differently about desire, intimacy, and what your relationship could look like if you actually designed it on purpose.
Find Dr. Emma Smith
Instagram: @EmmaSmithPhD
Podcast: The Intimate Philosopher
Workshops and masterclasses coming soon
Mentioned in this episode:
Relationship anarchy
Relationship agreement intensives
Window of tolerance
Resources:
Learn more about high-masking, late-diagnosed autism: Instagram @neurokoryous
Unmasking Retreats: koryandreas.com
YouTube: @ThatsMePod
